The play offs are a unique experience for football fans, so much riding on one or two games. Since their inception there is no doubt it has made the football league more exciting. But there are certain fans, certain clubs that have never, and in all likelihood will never, taste the bitter sweet feelings. I am here to tell you why that puts me in a better place than Manchester United, Arsenal and Liverpool supporters.
It’s the 29th May 1995 and I am sat at Wembley holding my head in my hands. Reading are two nil up and there’s only 20 minutes gone of the Play Off final against Bolton, with the winners getting a place in the top flight, something never achieved by my hometown club. You would think I’d be jumping and down, but the realization is hitting me that the Royals are just 70 minutes away from mixing it with the big boys. No matter that teams like Liverpool, Manchester United and Arsenal will, in all probability, have to play us at Loftus Road because Elm Park’s unfit. I really can’t believe it. History is about to be made.
The rest of that afternoon is now Play off folklore, with Archie Lovell’s penalty saved just before half time (don’t let anyone call it a miss) and the late comeback from Bolton Wanderers that eventually sees them win 4-3 after extra time.
The aftermath of the defeat is a blur. I trudged away from the stadium slightly dazed, encountering a crying RFC fan on the tube and driving home from Hillingdon to reflect on what might have been. Pictures of Lovell, distraught on the Wembley pitch afterwards bring me close to tears but the pride I feel for the team is immense. To come so close. Amazing.
The pain slowly fades and Reading eventually made it to the top flight for the first time in their history after a record-breaking season in 2005-06.
Now comes another play off final, again for the right to play in the Premier League. This time it doesn’t mean as much because we’ve been there before BUT the pain of defeat or the joy of winning will still be extraordinary. Fans know no inbetween. It’s win or lose. Pain or glory.
And here comes my main point. Like most fans (I think it’s fair to say) I am a glass half-full person. Football does that to you. But there is real pleasure and pride in seeing my team making headlines. It still gives me a warm glow to see a front page featuring RFC (like the Liverpool or Everton cup wins recently).
To my mind, that sense of attachment, that extra bond is not felt by supporters of the bigger more successful teams. After all success is benchmarked in different ways. Arsenal have failed this season apparently. Despite qualifying for the Champions League, again, getting to a cup final and only losing in Europe to the best side on the planet. Reading finishing 9th in the Championship would have made me happy.
The FA Cup final was more special this year for the change of teams, different sets of fans walking up Wembley way. Ok, Stoke lost and were awful on the day. But those 40 thousand fans will never forget that day. And I bet they are still proud of the players and the club.
Manchester City fans know what it’s like to suffer. That’s why, despite their money. I hope there is further joy next season for the blue half of Manchester. I think City fans have an attachment, emotionally unbreakable, that means appreciation of success is greater. Good luck to United on Saturday, but please those United fans that have only known glory, take a step back and appreciate the success. Drink it in. It won’t go on forever. For some clubs it will be never be tasted at all.